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The InCel Boy Crisis, Link between mass shooters, absent fathers ignored by anti-gun activists

Doug_Nightmare

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https://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2018/mar/27/mass-shooters-absent-fathers-link-ignored-anti-gun/
Gun control activists are quick to blame mass shootings on the proliferation of firearms, but are less likely to point to the proliferation of fatherless households. Yet research shows that school shooters tend to come from broken homes, where one or more parent is absent, addicted or abusive.
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Mr. Farrell said a boy who grows up without a father is rarely given sufficient boundary enforcement from a young age. This leads to the inability to postpone [self-]gratification and do well in school and athletics compared to other boys, which in turn causes him to resent his peers and authority figures. These feelings are only exacerbated as he enters adolescence and girls reject him, causing him to retreat into video games and pornography.
 

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"Gratification". For about 30 years, kids and young adults have been steeped in the idea that they should be "rewarded" immediately after achieving some goal or doing something good. They have not been taught to have "patience" and work for a larger goal. I can think of no other place where this has become more painfully obvious than the housing market.

Young adults are getting out of college with enormous debt yet they compound their situation by buying these "McMansions" that they can ill afford even without that college debt. Rather than get a smaller "starter" home, they jump into the "deep end of the pool", then wonder why they are sinking. They "think" (feel) that they are "entitled" to have this good life at their early stage rather than to wait and work at achieving something of value.

That desire (demand) for instant gratification goes hand in hand with the lack of patience when it comes to "gun violence" as well. The majority of this violence is gang related and may be partly related to this instant gratification but also (I suspect) to the lack of respect they feel they are not receiving from others. I believe that, knowing that their criminal activities hurt themselves, their families, their "friends", their community, these perpetrators of mayhem probably don't even respect themselves. So how can they respect anybody else?

As long as this lack of respect persists, the violence won't stop, even if the guns are gone. They will switch to baseball bats, knives, "Molotov cocktails", whatever they can grab. The number of victims might go down and they might have fewer fatalities but the violence will remain.
 

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Sigh...this in the greatest country of the world where:
1. “A church group under the title Tell Your Children, made a film in the 30’s which was intended to be shown to parents as a morality tale to teach them about the dangers of cannabis use.” Didn’t help in the 21st century.
2. Where politicians abrogated the men’s role in being the partner in a familia relationship by allowing NOW to whine resulting passage of self serving laws diminishing the male’s role during divorce, family support, and custodial judicial proceedings.
3. Allowing “teachers” to mandate sending rambunctious children to general practitioners to improperly prescribe psychotropic meds to this children in lieu of training parents, teachers, and the children coping skill to better channel their energy instead of with quick solutions on drugs!
4. Drug companies being allowed to aggressively ship nearly 21 million opioid painkillers to a singular town in WVa with only 2,900 people.
5. Why has the pervasiveness in several ethnicities to accept fatherless homes been allow to persevere for decadeS which exacerbates the young adults to suffer.

As for Ferrell’s “new concept” book, seems it isn’t a new concept ~ per Pschology Today 2018 article: “Actually, worry about boys is not new. In fact, a cover story in Newsweek magazine in early 2006 is titled “The Boy Crisis: At Every Level of Education, They’re Falling Behind: What to Do.” Or “if you consider Christina Hoff Sommers’ 2000 book, The War Against Boys — has barely been touched by the “big three”? I believe, and have for years, that a major reason is that with women viewed as a major cause for progressives, the problems faced by boys (and men) have been more or less ignored.”
 

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Youth today will Implode or Explode without emotional controls and that is not taught by their parents/guardians.

Very good observation but how can we breakdown the current generational one parent household or help the current generation of young men properly segue into their proper places as they move from adolescence towards young adulthood > adult hood.

Contributing factor...Friday evening a NC 25yo woman was shot and killed in a 30 shot barrage into the home where she was visiting cousins...oh did i forget to mention she was the mother of 7 children, oldest is 12 & youngest was 2 mths. Nothing on the news mentioned a father! [ya got pg at 13 while in middle school]

Here is a gaggle of young’ns who are now in the state foster care system...Ferrell’s tome doesn’t weave these situations into his eauations whatsoever.
 

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Very good observation but how can we breakdown the current generational one parent household or help the current generation of young men properly segue into their proper places as they move from adolescence towards young adulthood > adult hood.

Contributing factor...Friday evening a NC 25yo woman was shot and killed in a 30 shot barrage into the home where she was visiting cousins...oh did i forget to mention she was the mother of 7 children, oldest is 12 & youngest was 2 mths. Nothing on the news mentioned a father! [ya got pg at 13 while in middle school]

Here is a gaggle of young’ns who are now in the state foster care system...Ferrell’s tome doesn’t weave these situations into his eauations whatsoever.


Back in the old days, States had programs such as this that helped trouble youth learn how to deal with their emotions in a positive way. Unfortunately, programs like these are long gone and here we are.

 

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Alas the citizenry of this nation refuses to finance these type of institutions.
That stated,
The typical student at New Dominion School is between the ages of 11 and 17, is physically able to participate in our outdoor living program, and has at least an average IQ. Usually the student will exhibit some or all of the following behaviors: anger, impulsivity, oppositional behavior, abuse of drugs and alcohol, poor communication, resistance to parental control, lying, manipulation, and running away. Prior to enrollment, many of the students have been administered medications to help them manage their behavior. Due to the highly structured and supportive nature of the group setting and the dynamic challenges of outdoor living, these students are able to function well and make significant personal gains without prescribed medications.

The length of stay at New Dominion School is 12 to 18 months.


After 12-18 months...where do any of the 44 youth go? [i’ll help...back to their communities & familial caregivers which perpetuated the issues in the first case...sigh]

UPDATE: New Dominion was CLOSED by its new owners, Three Springs, in April 2009.
 

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Alas the citizenry of this nation refuses to finance these type of institutions.
That stated,
The typical student at New Dominion School is between the ages of 11 and 17, is physically able to participate in our outdoor living program, and has at least an average IQ. Usually the student will exhibit some or all of the following behaviors: anger, impulsivity, oppositional behavior, abuse of drugs and alcohol, poor communication, resistance to parental control, lying, manipulation, and running away. Prior to enrollment, many of the students have been administered medications to help them manage their behavior. Due to the highly structured and supportive nature of the group setting and the dynamic challenges of outdoor living, these students are able to function well and make significant personal gains without prescribed medications.

The length of stay at New Dominion School is 12 to 18 months.


After 12-18 months...where do any of the 44 youth go? [i’ll help...back to their communities & familial caregivers which perpetuated the issues in the first case...sigh]

But they will know how to deal with their emotions in a positive and constructive ways. It's kinda like showing someone a new way with doing things instead of letting them walk in the dark without directions.
 

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Much article writing that ignores a simple fact.

We have a population now of mostly steeple who are SHOCKED by violence.
Made so by our gov.

A gov intent on mandating kill zones ie GFZ.

Evil exists, the world ain't safe and it never has been. Past generations were able to process that fact. The current one isnt.
 

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The OP has again proffered a study, in the form of a book, where the studiererer fits facts to bolster their premise. I suspect, without facts of course, that there are a vast number of young gentlemen in Mericah!! who do not have a father/father figure in their life and who are not, believe it or not, shooting up schools or Walmarts...nor will they.

ISIS? Uh, could it be that the wee lads in these Muslim enclaves are afeared for their lives if they don't accept the "higher cause."

The money qoute: “There is the ability to buy these guns,” he said. “But guns are not the underlying problem; they are the magnifier.” ...yeah, that right there is code for guns bad, gun owners more bad...
 
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